A widely held notion about lovemaking is that it is divided into three distinct stages: foreplay, intercourse, and afterglow. The very word “foreplay” suggests that it happens before the “real thing.” However, the idea that foreplay precedes actually
“doing it” is an indirect cause of many men’s sexual difficulties.
There are no such things as foreplay and afterglow. There is only loveplay.
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Few men—and fewer women—understand that men also fake orgasm and for the same reasons. Nonejaculatory men may fake orgasm to avoid being considered
abnormal, since “everyone knows” there’s only one thing on a man’s mind—getting his rocks off. Some men fake it to reassure their lovers about this sexual attractiveness. Some fake orgasm simply to get sex over with.
