Some families think that going to a counselor is a sign of weakness. Others may have wrong ideas about this type of help. They worry that talking about their problems will make things worse, or will change them in some way.
Sometimes going to a counselor can be scary because we think that we might need to change the way we think or act. A counselor doesn't begin by trying to change people; that's not possible. This trained person will help you understand the problems that are troubling you. You and the counselor will work together to find ways to deal positively with these problems.
Sometimes people with cancer want to get help, but their families do not. Sometimes the family wants help and the patient does not. In any case, the person wanting help should get it. If possible, though, the best way to work on problems is as a family.
Hospitals offer short-term counseling for cancer patients. This counseling helps patients learn how to deal with problems relating to cancer. When you first find out that you have cancer, short-term counseling may help you and your family. Learning new ways to solve problems during this time may be all your family needs to handle the illness. Or you may also find counseling useful at a later time if more treatments are needed or if new problems occur. Talking with someone outside your family or circle of friends can help relieve your worries and allow you to make the right choices for yourself.
Counseling for you or your family is often free at your treatment center. The counselor will want to discuss your concerns with other health care workers who are treating you. Then they will know you as a whole person, not just a cancer patient. Since counseling is always private, you must give your permission before any counseling information is shared.
* Stress
* Worry
* Sadness
* Anger
* Depression
If you want to know if counseling services can help you, talk to your doctor, nurse, or social worker. After meeting with a counselor, you can decide if counseling will help you or your family.
Hospitals often have counselors who provide free service. They may be oncology (cancer) social workers, oncology clinical nursing specialists, psychologists, or psychiatrists.
These people are trained to understand the common problems cancer patients experience. If your hospital does not have counselors, community agencies can provide counseling services. The fees are often based on your income.
If you decide to see a private counselor, you may want to speak with more than one before making a choice. Be sure that you are comfortable talking about your problems with the counselor you choose.
Your local American Cancer Society may provide you with a list of trained cancer counselors.
Not all people with cancer want or need this kind of help. Many people need counseling only during a time of crisis, such as:
This Fact Sheet is adapted from the book, Helping People Cope: A Guide for Families Facing Cancer, written by Joan F. Hermann, ACSW, Sandra L. Wojtkowiak, RN, MSN, Peter S. Houts, Ph.D., and S. Benham Kahn, MD, and supported by the Pennsylvania Cancer Control Program of the Pennsylvania Department of Health; 1990 Revised Edition
c 1993, American Cancer Society, Inc.
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